Boyfriends Chase and Jordan’s prom update and photos.
Prom was fab!!! A gay time was had by all!!
I got this email from Leesa about her boys prom:
Happily Ever After Prom, We Shall See!!
As many of you know, recently I had to contact the Starmount High School Principal, when she informed my son’s boyfriend, Chase, that he could not bring a same-sex date (Jordan) to his Senior Prom. The school revised their policy shortly thereafter and made the decision to allow Jordan to attend Chase’s senior Prom as his date.
We agreed to do an interview with Fox8 news after they contacted us wanting to do a story about this, the reason we agreed was to offer hope to other GLBT teens who may find themselves in the same situation at their school.
Since that story aired, I have felt an extreme amount of disappointment in my fellow man and North Carolina neighbors. Some of the comments that we have received about two gay boys attending the senior prom have been hateful, disheartening, and some have even been scary.
They have threatened to hold a separate prom so that their “straight students” aren’t exposed to Jordan and Chase’s gayness. They have raised “holy” hell, preaching nonstop about the abomination of homosexuality and I have been told repeatedly, that not only, both boys, but myself included are going to hell.
Here are a few of my favorite hater comments:
North Wilkesboro, NC
Sunday Apr 18
I myself have a son who is a Senior at Starmount High. I really disagree with this and am now in the proces of trying to plan out an alternate plan to the prom. I have spoken with several parents and we all feel that if these two boys are allowed to go to prom that there may be trouble and we don’t want it to interfere with our children and their special night.
• fed up
Monday Apr 19
I am the parent of a student that will be a junior next year. There WILL be a PRIVATE prom next year for Starmount High students to attend by invitation only. The ballroom has already been reserved at a very nice hotel in the Elkin/Jonesville area and there will be a dj and all the catering and decorations. We will be contacting other parents if you’d like to help make this a truly special prom for your straight kids.I for one AM NOT too cowardly to stand up for what is RIGHT!
Monday Apr 19
What the other students at Starmount High School should do is boycott the Prom. Let NO attend except these two. The school would be seen as caving in to the treat of being called into the ACLU. The mom in this instance, is looking for “attention” and publicity. It is common knowledge that she and her son plan to move to California after graduation this year. That is JUST the place to have these relationships.
• Scam wrote:
It would be no different were it pedophiles, necrophiliacs,people who have sex with animals, showing up at the prom. Homosexuality is a sickness that no child should be exposed to. It certainly should not be taught that there is nothing wrong with it! Do you teach your children about the other perverted , degenerate things certain people CHOOSE to engage in? Sick world only being made sicker by telling sick people that they aren’t sick!
• fed up wrote:
Lev 18:22 “Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman;that is detestable.”
29 “Everyone who does these detestable things such persons must be cut off from their people.”
20:13 “If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.”
Rom 1;27 “In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion.
32 Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.
1Cor 6:9 Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God?Do not be deceived:Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders.
NOW YOU TELL ME YOU ARE DOING YOUR JOB AS A PARENT? YOU ARE SENDING YOUR CHILD TO HELL!!!!!
You can see more of these comments at:
The main theme to all of these arguments is religion, many fail to realize that the same human and civil rights that give them their freedom of religion and their freedom of speech is the very same human and civil rights that prevents the barring of “same sex” prom dates or discrimination in any form for that matter.
I have pointed out the flaws in the religious argument on several occasions because many seem to pick and choose which verses of the bible they wish to uphold and which ones they ignore, (I do not see Christian’s fighting against divorced people getting remarried, even thought the bible clearly states it is an abomination) all to no avail, they dogmatically hold onto their view and preach hate, never realizing that just because they believe it does not make it so.
The Christian religion is not the only religion in the world, and not all Christian’s believe that homosexuality is wrong. It is merely their opinion and while they may be entitled to their opinion and belief’s they cannot use those beliefs or opinions to dictate the lives of others they disagree with. Separation of Church and State, Freedom of Religion, everything this country was built upon states very clearly that you cannot stomp on the human rights of others just because you believe differently from them or do not approve of their sexual orientation.
It is unclear, at this point in time, if Chase and Jordan are going to have their “Happily Ever After Prom”! It is unclear if the other students will even attend this prom with two gay boys. It is unclear what will be waiting for both of these boys when they get out of the care BUT one thing is absolutely, positively clear, Chase and Jordan will be attending this prom, they will show up, they will be together and they will face the hate and opposition they are facing head on.
SO sad. Just when you have hope that the country has changed for the better you are reminded we have far to go.
LAST WEEKS ARTICLE
CHASE AND JORDAN GO TO THE PROM
This is a testament to Jordan’s über cool parents, to Chase and Jordan for being so open and honest and to Starmount High School and Principal Parker for doing the right thing. I want to preface the following by stating that I mean no disrespect to the school or it’s administrators. I know that unfortunately this is still an issue and Chase, Jordan, Leesa and all others involved are doing their part to change it.
I have come to know Leesa Nixon, Jordan’s Mom, as the very supportive ‘FagHagMom’ on Twitter. We have never met but our virtual friendship over the past month has been endearing. She is clearly a role model for any parent of an LGBT child. She is unconditionally supportive.
So when her son’s boyfriend, Chase wanted to bring her son, Jordan to his senior prom and he was met with opposition from high school administrators, Leesa came to his defense. Bravo!!. We’ve heard this story several times this prom season with mixed outcomes. It’s a shame that these scenarios still have to involve attorneys, the HRC and the ACLU. We all recall the ongoing drama with Constance Mcmillen, the HRC and the fake prom? Gross.
It’s a dance for god’s sake. Is this a reincarnation of Footloose where no dancing has been replaced by no non-straights? Below is Leesa’s account of the victorious experience that made the high school examine their policy on same-sex prom dates. At the end of the article you can listen to the audio voicemail message left by principle Parker. She seems a bit nervous but I have to give her props for basically doing the right thing. Although they just changed the school policy so that anyone could bring a ‘guest’ and not call it a date as opposed to allowing same-sex dates, it’s still a step in the right direction. Nicely done. Congratulations to all parties involved!!!
Have a kick ass prom!! These boys are adorable BTW which is totally inappropriate for me to say.
Below article written by: Leesa Nixon–Jordans awesome mom!
Senior Prom that much-anticipated rite of passage for American youth. The moment they wait for all school year, it is the signal that they have finally made it through 4 years of high school hell and in a very short time they will be adults, living on their own, conquering the world.
The dreaded question, “will you go to prom with me?” has been asked and answered, “Yes”. What to wear has been argued about, discussed and finally agreed upon. Transportation, check! All the hard stuff has been addressed and they are all ready to go, right?
For Gay, Lesbian, Bi and Transsexual teens, finding a date and something to wear to the prom is the easy part. The hard part comes when school officials tell them that they cannot bring their same-sex date, or dress in a manner the school officials feel is inappropriate, “like wearing a tux if you’re a girl or a dress if you’re a boy.”
Take for example, the case of 17-year-old Chase, a student at Starmount High School in Booneville, North Carolina, who was called into the principal’s office April 6th. The following is Chase’s account of what happened next.
“Today, April 6, 2010 I was called into the Principal’s office, I was unaware of the reason at the time. When I entered the office, Mrs. Parker was in the room, sitting at her desk and so was Mr. Samuel, the Vice Principal. Mr. Samuel was sitting in the corner of her office. I went in and Mrs. Parker, the Principal, asked me to shut the door, which, I did.
Mrs. Parker then asked me to sit down, and I think I did, though I only remember standing, but I believe I sat down. Mrs. Parker then tells me, that she didn’t realize it until she looked at my permission form for prom again that I was planning to bring a boy to the prom or something like that, and then she informed me that I couldn’t bring a friend as my date.
Mrs. Parker stated, that it was because other people would want to bring friends and it’s a rule that they’ve had for a while now, that you could not bring friends to the prom. I informed Mrs. Parker that Jordan is not my friend, but my boyfriend and she replied that she knew my situation was different but she couldn’t let me bring him.
I then asked her, “why?” And she replied that she knew my situation was different but if people saw me bring my “friend” then other guys would want to bring their, and I quote, “Home-Boys” to prom. When I didn’t respond, Mrs. Parker then asked me if I had a “backup friend” a girlfriend to bring instead. I stated, “No, I won’t go” (Implying that I would not go if he couldn’t).
Mrs. Parker then asked me if I had already bought my prom ticket and I said no. Then she said nothing else and neither did I, until I asked if I could go and she said that I could. I told her thank you and she said thank you and I left.
Mr. Samuel never said anything the entire time I was there; I believe he was there to ensure that the conversation did not get out of hand.
This is not a word-by-word account of the entire meeting. But the “I know your situation is different” and “Other guys would want to bring their “homeboys” are exact quotes of what Mrs. Parker said to me.”
The discrimination that Chase was confronted with has been resolved. I called and spoke with his principal and informed her that not allowing Chase to bring his boyfriend to the prom was discrimination and a violation of his constitutionally protected rights. I threatened to call the ACLU, (which I did) and go to the media.
After our first conversation, I was contacted by Mrs. Parker, who informed me that she was waiting on the school attorney to call.
April 7th, Mrs. Parker left a message on my phone stating that she had spoken with the school attorney and that the school was going to allow Chase to bring my son Jordan to his Senior Prom “as his outside date” and that what they were going to have to do, was change the rule to allow students to bring a guest and not necessarily a “date”.
To be fair to Mrs. Parker, I got the distinct impression that she did not agree with this policy and was only trying to follow the rules that were in effect in her school district before she got there. She immediately went to work and corrected the issue at hand.
I applaud Starmount High School for their quick actions, I brought this issue to their attention and in one day they not only changed their initial decision, they changed their policy to ensure that this would never happen again. Although they change their policy to state “guest” instead of “date”, it is still a step in the right direction and they should be admired for their willingness to change. It is my hope that all schools would respond to these issues in such a fair and timely manner.
Thankfully Starmount High School did solve the problem very quickly, and decided to put a stop to this unfair treatment. Unfortunately, other schools are not willing to resolve these issues and discrimination without being told do so by the courts.
The educators in these cases are teaching hate and intolerance to our nations children, the example they are setting with their treatment of these gay, lesbian, bi and transsexual children only enforces the view that these teens and all homosexual’s should be ostracized and denied the same fundamental rights as straight people.
How is America the land of the free, where all men are purportedly created equal supposed to achieve a society of fairness, equality and justice, when the very people charged with educating our children are behaving in such a discriminating manner?
There are laws and school rules that prohibit hate crimes, discrimination, bullying, and harassment, but when the very people who are in charge of enforcing those rules and laws, are guilty of breaking them, who protects these children from them?
** Special Note of Interest
There is currently a bill before Congress that would protect Gay, Lesbian, Bi, and Transsexual students from this very type of discrimination. If you would like to take a stand against this discrimination, contact your Congressman/Woman and ask them to support and pass the Student Non-Discrimination Act http://thomas.loc.gov/cgi-bin/query/z?c111:H.R.4530:
This bill, if passed, would “end discrimination based on actual or perceived sexual orientation or gender identity in public schools, and for other purposes.” You can read the entire bill at the link above.
I urge all of you to call Congress and voice your support of this bill. If you are unsure of who to talk to you may visit the House of Representatives website at http://www.house.gov/ to find out who your Congressional Representative is.
Stop teaching hate, don’t discriminate. Celebrate!! Jordan and Chase have been dating since September 2008 and hope to get marry one day.
Listen to the message from Mrs. Parker here http://chirb.it/g8aLsh
ROCK ON LEESA!! Hope you boys have a great night. Shine on!